What Nobody Told Me About Being A SAHM

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I’ve always worked. Like, always. When I turned 14, I got my first job at the local video store my mom worked at. I made HALF of minimum wage (which was $5 at the time!) because I shared a shift with the owner’s daughter, also 14. It wasn’t much but I was the richest 14 year old in school!

I worked there, as well as got a fast food job at 16, until I graduated high school. Not until we had our first child did I take time off working. This lasted about six months, and I went crazy. I was also a full time (online) college student, so being home with a newborn, whilst trying to do homework, and a husband who worked third shift drove me nuts. I needed to work, so I jumped back onto the working mom wagon. Any mom who works knows that work is actually kind of a vacation.

Fast forward a few years and a few thousand coffees, we now have two children and I’m back to being a stay at home mom. This time is a little different, though. I’ve learned a lot through my adventures in momhood, and I’ve learned to find the joy in this lifestyle.

Besides the typical “you’ll be tired” and “sleep when the kids sleep” (does anyone actually do this??), there are a few things I never knew about being a stay at home mama.


  1. It gets easier.

It really does. I’m not sure how, or why, but it does.

The first month I was home with our girls, I barely made it through the week. It was chaos, I was easily flustered, and I felt like a bad mom. We’ve all been there, though, being mom life is stressful.

We have so many responsibilities, as if keeping our children alive isn’t enough. It can get hectic.

But as time went on, a month to be precise, I noticed myself changing a bit. I was more patient, I had a bit more energy, I just felt happier altogether.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, give it time. It’s like our super hot mom bods become accustomed to this life. Patience you must have, my young padawan.


  1. Schedule, schedule schedule.

One thing that I didn’t start with was a schedule. After that first stressful, hectic month, we slowly fell into a schedule that worked for us.

Different things will work for different families, of course, but ours is great for us. The girls have adjusted to certain activities at certain times, even with a change occasionally if I find something different works better.

Right now, we’re kind of like this:

7 a.m. Wake up, breakfast, get ready for school.

8 a.m. Take Mikinley to school.

8:15 a.m.-2 p.m. Brenna and I hang out, no strict schedule or routine here. Just go with the flow.

3 p.m. After school snack, go over schoolwork, play time.

5 p.m. Dinner.

6:30 p.m. Mikinley and I have started a 15 day workout challenge, she loves doing it with me!

7:00-7:30 p.m. Lay down in bed, story time, chat.

Then I do my mom things for the night. I usually schedule a half hour to an hour for deep cleaning (focusing on one or two rooms/areas each night), then relax and watch my mommy shows before bed.

As you can see, it’s not a super detailed or strict schedule, it’s just something that’s fallen into place. Take a step back and look at your day, then see what can be changed or removed and go from there. Write it down if you have to! (Check out this planner,  it’s great for daily and monthly plans and goals!)  Mom or not, having a plan for the day makes life so much easier.


  1. No more peaceful poops.

I know I’m not the only one who takes her smartphone into the bathroom when you know you’re gonna be a while. How peaceful is it to play a game or scroll through Facebook while you’re sitting on the john? Very.

But when you have zero minus twenty seconds to get the job done, ha! Let me tell ya. There is either a kid standing there staring at you, or if you locked the door, she’s got her fingers under the door trying to slither in. Or, if you snuck off to the toilet without being seen, you’ll still have to be quick about it because five seconds later, one of the kids is screaming about one thing or another.

I’ve got no advice for you here, just something you’ll have to be prepared for!


  1. It’s okay to dress a mess.

Ask my husband, I’m the queen of frump. That means yoga pants every day, t-shirts, sweatshirts, you name it. I’m definitely not one of those Instagram moms that looks cute 24/7.

It’s all about comfort, amiright? Don’t feel like you need to impress anyone. Your kids don’t care. If you’ve got a significant other, chances are he or she doesn’t care either.

I’ll sometimes wear jeans when I’m running errands, and I’ll throw on my go-to cute outfit if we go out to dinner. But I’ve got plenty of other things to worry about that are more important than dressing my absolute best.


  1. You will be overwhelmed with love.

There is so much love and joy in being home with the kids. Not ALWAYS, trust me, I’ve had plenty of screaming, stomping, “you’re not my mom anymore,” and other various tantrums.

But you’re there for every second of it. Every smile, every poopy diaper, every milestone. Whether it’s a happy, sad, or angry moment with your children, drink it in and appreciate it.


I absolutely love being home with my kids. Even with all the ups and downs, there are so many good things that have come from it. I’ve become a better mom.

If you’re contemplating staying home with the kids and you can afford to, just do it! Remember it does take some time to get used to this lifestyle, so be patient and enjoy your little while they are still little.

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